How to talk about autism with ordinary children (as well as everyone they meet)
I liked the material - help those who need help: http://specialtranslations.ru/need-help/
Copying the full text for distribution in social networks and forums is possible only by citing publications from the official pages of Special translations or through a link to the site. When quoting text on other sites, put the full translation header at the beginning of the text.
It is wonderful if, from an early age, a child will know what autism is and learn to accept special children as they are. The more people will know about autism, the better it will affect the whole society and, first of all, of course, the lives of people with autism. But it is difficult for an ordinary person to immediately realize that next to him is a person with an autism spectrum disorder. Frankly, even recognized experts in this field can find it difficult at first glance to understand that they are autistic. This is a complex condition, and recognizing it is also not easy. People with autism are very different from each other and can represent both active members of society, living a full, independent life, and severely disabled people who are not capable of simple communication with others.
So how can a parent, teacher, or educator help ordinary children understand what such a complex developmental disability is? What words can be told about this to an ordinary child who will inevitably meet people with autism spectrum disorders in schools, churches, and children's parties? How can they be taught to not only calmly relate to the presence of their special peers nearby, but also to accept them in their games and actively communicate with them?
As a teacher and mother of a small autistic child, I know how things are on both sides. Recently, children and adults are increasingly asking me questions about my son. I have to work hard to explain to other people what autism is, and at the same time not to start lecturing about it. As a teacher, I often see how ordinary children are embarrassed when a child with special needs is present in the classroom, and what a devastating effect a feeling of rejection has on a particular child.
We all need to try harder
Below I give some tips and considerations that will help ordinary children better understand their peers with autism spectrum disorders, and help children with autism to be understood and accepted by their environment.
Honest questions cannot be rude. Once again, sincere and honest questions cannot be rude, they cannot offend. How else can children learn something new if they cannot ask? Of course, little Johnny, who claps his hands all the time and mutters something, seems strange to the neurotypic four-year-old child. And you can not scold him for asking what is wrong with Johnny. On the contrary, this is a great moment for a conversation about the fact that all people in this world are different. In a conversation, it is not necessary to touch on moments that may seem difficult for the baby. Our five year old daughter knows that her brother has autism and that this is normal. She knows that her brother is different, knows what he likes and what doesn't. She knows that her brother needs to be looked after a little more than her, but we love them exactly the same. This is enough for now. She loves him and is ready to make concessions so that they can play together and enjoy communicating with each other. This is a great start.
Give a clear analogy, for example, with computer games. This option is great for middle-aged children. The parent of an autistic child and a blogger with the nickname Four Sea Stars used this technique to talk about the condition of her fourth-grade son with his peers. She asked what would happen to a computer game if it was run in a system for which it was not intended (the game would be difficult to start, slow down, some functions would not work, etc. - approx. Translator). This was enough to understand the essence of the problem. Modern children are well versed in computers and computer games. After such an analogy, the students asked many good questions, and her son got the opportunity to share his unique experience with them and help friends better understand him. You can also invite them to play the online game Auti-Sim, which shows how a hypersensitive autistic child perceives what is happening on the playground. This is not the best game, but it can give children an interesting experience.
Focus on the strengths of the child. When you talk about autism with other children, talk about what an autistic child can do. For example, he cannot speak, but loves to play with a sprinkler and dance to the music. Suggest options for how children can play all together and ask other children to express their ideas. Try to make them speak directly with the autistic child, even if he cannot answer. Not all autistic people are mentally retarded. Even if the child does not know how to speak, he can perfectly understand what you are saying to him, and you can find a way so that he can communicate his desires.
Connect other children to autism events. Many cities have support centers for children with autism and other disorders. They spend holidays, charity events, etc. It will be best if you organize something similar in your community and involve neurotypical children in the event. It will be great, for example, to organize sports competitions where combined teams, including special and ordinary children, will compete together. If you are a parent, you can turn to one of the cinemas with a request to organize autistic-friendly sessions. Ask who organizes a New Year's holiday for your children at your school (kindergarten, club) and suggest leaving a few hours at the end of the holiday so that children with special needs can also take part in the holiday. Be sure to offer help with the organization. Offer to organize a cycle of children's readings (an event when children are going to listen to fairy tales - approx. Translator) in the local library. Organize everything so that children with autism can take part in the event. Ask your local fire department or police department to set aside a few hours for children with sensory problems to visit these organizations as part of the “Occupation Day”. You will be surprised how many people want to help you if you ask them about it.
Talk to the county education department. Ask if there are tolerance lesson programs for children in their work. Offer a lesson for your child’s classmates. Most often, such lessons are held in elementary grades, in high school this does not happen so often. And this is a big flaw, because children only entering adolescence especially need such lessons.
Bring autism out of the shadows. Most often, older children are considered very cruel. Having worked for 15 years in high school, I can confidently say that at this age, children are quite capable of empathy and selfless actions. For older children to understand you, you must be open and honest. If you avoid a topic, in their minds it will be connected with something bad, forbidden. Answer their questions. Remember that despite their age, these children still measure the world by their standards. If you help them to imagine themselves in the place of another person, you will find faithful allies in their person. On your side is also the characteristic belief in children of this age that everything is possible. They will turn the mountains, if you explain to them that this is important.
Remember brothers and sisters. Alicia Arenas forever changed my perception of special children siblings in her lecture on the TED “Glass children” portal (this lecture can be viewed at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSwqo-g2Tbk - Translator's Note) . Brothers and sisters of special children need others to recognize their right to be just children and not to bear responsibility for the emotions of their parents, sisters and brothers with special needs. Ask your child's classroom teacher to help organize a support group for special children siblings at school. If there are enough participants in such a group, most likely there will be enough autism in the school to organize a support group for them.
Explain the church. If you attend church, then most likely the parish and parish life play a big role in the life of your family. In this case, you should ask the priest to give you the opportunity to talk with parishioners. Tell them about autism, tell them about your child so that they can better understand it. My friend was lucky, in her parish they try to maximally attract every special child to the parish life. What a wonderful experience for all participants in the process!
Read books on autism and autism. There are a large number of literature of different ages, designed for both autistic and neurotype individuals. As a teacher and school librarian, I cannot underestimate the impact of a good book on the minds and hearts of children. Is there a better way to feel like a different person? See a list of eligible books: http://www.bestchildrensbookstoday.com/bestautismbooksforchildren/.
Invite teens and older children to join autistic communities. If you live in a large city, there is probably somewhere near a center or workshop in which people with autism work, or maybe some kind of support group for them. If you live in a province, you can use online forums, groups, sites, etc., and, of course, sites with information not only for autists, but also for their friends and relatives: Squag.com, AutismHwy.com, AspergersTeenChat.com, and Born This Way Autism. It is important to understand that autistic people themselves often need help to figure out what is going on with them. The ability to talk with “like-minded people” is a vital necessity for many of them and can have a huge impact on them. We all need someone to talk to.
When the next day comes the spread of information about autism, why not try to “spread a little bit of information,” using one of my tips? In this way you will not only help make the world a little more welcoming for autistic people, but also contribute to the spiritual growth of those who have never heard of this disorder. Together, we can turn the dissemination of autism information into the spread of autism acceptance worldwide.
It seems to me that each of us will benefit from this, right?
Reasons and treatment
The most important issue today is the causes of this disorder. In fact, there is no exact information about what are the causes of autism in children.
Scientists believe that autism is a disorder whose causes are injuries during childbirth, infectious diseases, traumatic brain injuries, and congenital dysfunction of the nervous system.
Also, there is still no exact understanding of how autism is inherited and whether the hereditary factor affects the manifestation of the disorder. Researchers argue that some genetic predisposition in patients is always present. It is important to remember that the risk group includes mainly men, since they are carriers of a gene that can be transmitted and can be the causative agent of the disease.
Diagnosis of autism is a rather complicated process, as its symptoms are diverse and intersect with other diseases. Therefore, in order to make such a diagnosis, a long examination by several specialists using various psychological, psychophysiological and medical methods is necessary. Identifying symptoms can be difficult, and it can take a fair amount of time.
As for treatment, this process is also very difficult, because the features of how to treat autism will depend on the complexity of the disorder. Today, many are puzzled by whether autism can be cured. It is important to understand how to treat the disorder, because it is not amenable to treatment in the generally accepted sense of the word, but how to help the child socialize and adapt to the environment.
What is important is, of course, good psychotherapy and competent child education - all that will help him develop and be active in society:
- Individual work with the child, teaching his social skills, starting with the simplest. This can be a mild correction and therapy of autism, when the child is not forced, but as if included in the activity.
- Attracting parents to therapy, since it is important to relieve internal stress from them and give them the opportunity to understand that there is a way out of this situation.
- The regular implementation of various tasks with the child on the development of imaginative thinking, the presentation of different images, imagination of situations.
- Classes for teaching the child non-verbal manifestations (usually in the classroom the child is explained when and what kind of emotional reaction is appropriate).
- Slow, gradual introduction of the child into the children's team (it is important to do everything as tactfully as possible so that the child gets used to the children, and the children to him).
- Treatment of autism in children can sometimes contain a drug program, but it will always depend on the course of the disease. It is impossible to cure this disorder only with tablets.
- Some therapists believe that a certain diet with autism can also accelerate the patient's recovery. Therefore, it is important to purchase those products that will stimulate the development of the child.
- It is also worth knowing that the symptoms and treatment of this disorder are largely interconnected: if some signs appear, then one type of therapy will be relevant, if others, then the therapy will change.
I must say that childhood autism is diverse and there are many approaches to working with such children. Autism in adults is a more complicated situation, where many symptoms can be more pronounced, which will make it difficult to work with the patient. In an adult, the treatment process will also be based on therapy and training, detailed, systematic and gradual.
It is important to remember that working with children and adults with autism syndrome requires patience, endurance and love. It doesn’t matter whether it is autism in a child or autism in adults - this disorder is unusual and needs to be carefully diagnosed and no less thorough therapy. It is worth remembering that a child and an adult with varying degrees of severity of this disorder should definitely be observed by a doctor.
Understanding what autism is in a child gives you the opportunity to see how autism manifests itself and to understand that it is not as scary as you might guess. With this disease they adapt, live, and I must say, there are some famous people with autism who have found their uniqueness and individuality in this disorder (Woody Allen, Van Gogh, Andy Warhol, Abraham Lincoln, etc.). Posted by: Daria Potikan
Hello dear readers of the blog site. On TV and on the Internet, they are increasingly talking about autism. Is it true that this is a very complex disease, and there is no way to cope with it? Is it worth it to deal with a child who has been diagnosed with this, or is it still nothing to change?
The topic is very relevant, and even if you are not directly concerned, you need to convey the right information to people.
Autism - what is this disease?
Autism is a mental illness diagnosed in childhood, and it stays with a person for life. The reason is a violation of the development and functioning of the nervous system.
Scientists and doctors distinguish the following causes of autism :
- genetic problems
- traumatic brain injury at birth,
- infectious diseases of both the mother during pregnancy and the newborn.
Autistic children can be distinguished among their peers. They always want to stay alone and do not go to play sandboxes with others (or play hide and seek at school). Thus, they strive for social loneliness (they are so comfortable). Also noticeable is a violation of the manifestation of emotions.
If, then an autistic child is a vivid representative of the latter group. He is always in his inner world, does not pay attention to other people and everything that happens around.
It must be remembered that many children may show signs and symptoms of this disease, but expressed to a greater or lesser extent. Thus, there is a spectrum of autism. For example, there are children who can be strong friends with one person and at the same time be completely unable to communicate with others.
If we talk about adult autism then the signs will differ between male and female. Men are completely immersed in their hobbies. Very often they start collecting something. If you begin to go to regular work, then they occupy the same position for many years.
Signs of the disease in women are also quite remarkable. Они следуют шаблонному поведению, которое приписывают представительницам их пола. Поэтому выявить женщин-аутистов очень сложно неподготовленному человеку (нужен взгляд опытного психиатра). Также они могут часто страдать от депрессивных расстройств.
При аутизме у взрослого, признаком также будет выступать частое повторение каких-то действий или слов. This is part of a certain personal ritual that a person performs every day, or even several times.
Is there any hope of healing
After a diagnosis is made, the doctor tells parents first of all what autism is.
Parents should know what they are dealing with and that the disease cannot be cured completely. But you can deal with the child and ease the symptoms. With considerable effort, you can achieve an excellent result.
You need to start treatment with contact. Parents should build trust with the autistic as much as possible. Also provide conditions in which the child will feel comfortable. So that negative factors (quarrels, screams) do not affect the psyche.
It is necessary to develop thinking and attention. Logic games and puzzles are great for this. Autistic children also love them, like everyone else. When the child is interested in some object, tell us more about it, let it touch it in your hands.
Watching cartoons and reading books is a good way to explain why characters act so, what they do and what they face. From time to time, you need to ask such questions to the child so that he reflects.
It is important to teach how to deal with outbursts of anger and aggression and with situations in life in general. Also explain how to build friendships with peers.
Specialized schools and associations are a place where people will not be surprised to ask: what is the matter with the child? Professionals working there will provide a wide variety of techniques and games to help develop autistic children.
Together, you can achieve a high level of adaptation to society and the inner peace of the child.
Good luck to you! See you soon on the blog pages site
you can watch more videos by going to
You may be interested
Major is who or what (all meanings of the word) What is development: definition, characteristic and types What is godfather (a) - definition of a concept, role and responsibility What is dyslexia is a disease or minor violation What is egoism and egocentrism - what the difference between them What is property and what forms of ownership distinguish What is infantility: signs of infantile behavior in men and women, causes of infantilism
All people are different, and it is impossible to find two completely identical personalities. But sometimes there are special boys and girls. They can be distinguished from others at a glance. They are passionate about their own world, they shy away from outsiders and are extremely reverent about their things. Sometimes this behavior speaks of a special syndrome - autism. An autist is a person who is not able to form emotional closeness with others. This term was introduced into psychiatry by Bleiler to refer to signs of a psychopathological state of a person. What are the features of this phenomenon?
Why does this happen?
Of course, this is not the norm, but the deviation, however, is not very common. Although they say that in girls and women, autism can occur without external manifestations, since the fairer sex hides aggression and emotions. With the help of increased attention and special activities, it is possible to achieve some changes in human development, but it cannot be completely corrected.
It is worth noting that autism is not a person with mental disabilities. On the contrary, such children can have the beginnings of genius, as they develop internally faster than externally. They can shun society in one form or another, refuse to speak, see badly, but at the same time solve complex problems in their minds, masterly navigate in space and have a photographic memory. With a mild degree of autism, the person seems almost normal, except perhaps a little peculiar. He can become gloomy for no reason, talk to himself at especially exciting moments, sit for hours in one place, looking at one point. But such moments can occur in life all the time.
It’s more difficult to classify a severe degree of autism as normal, because this is a complete destruction of brain function. It was previously believed that an autistic child is a schizophrenic or even a psychopath. Over time, scientists figured out the essence of this deviation and distinguished them by symptoms. It is not difficult to make a diagnosis today, so confusion at this stage can be avoided. There is no answer to the question about specific disorders in the brain activity of an autistic person, because there is no single mechanism. You can’t even say with accuracy what autism provokes — a group of disorders with certain mutations or a disorder of a specific area of the brain. Many scientists agree that the rejection of the work of one lobe of the brain entails the active work of the opposite, which is why such children show remarkable mathematical or creative abilities.
All future parents during pregnancy believe that their child will be the smartest, strongest and most beautiful. Long before birth, they begin to make plans, but no one can predict such a diagnosis for their child.
Autism is a congenital disease, not an acquired one. Its appearance is influenced by many factors both at the stage of development of the fetus, and in the process of its formation. All functional systems of the brain are affected, therefore it is impossible to completely eradicate autism. You can only make some adjustments to the behavior of an individual and adapt him to society. An autist is not an outcast of society, but his victim. The fear of communication does not allow him to comprehend much, but only a stubborn and understanding person can break through his misunderstanding.
Work with autistic children is carried out everywhere, starting with a day nursery. At this stage, it is necessary to clarify and leave in the past all questions about the causes of the deviation. Often parents look for answers in their past, blame themselves for alcohol abuse and come to belated repentance. Well, these factors could affect the diagnosis of the child, but this is not an axiom.
Sometimes absolutely healthy people are parents of autists. Scientists cannot determine the reasons for the appearance of such a phenomenon, although for many years they have been trying to comprehend this mystery. In truth, until recently, the nature of autism has not really been investigated, so it will not be entirely correct to speak of a long observation period. In general, the phenomenon itself was designated for study only in the 20th century. A range of risk factors triggering autism was even identified. In particular, these are disorders at the genetic level, hormonal abnormalities, complications during pregnancy and childbirth, poisoning, malfunctions in chemical and biological processes, and cancerous tumors.
A large percentage of people with this deviation is characterized by the presence of a particular gene. Scientists believe that in such cases, the nerexin-1 gene plays a significant role. Also suspicious is the presence of a gene on the 11th chromosome. A conflict of parental genes can also result in a deviation. After conception, genes are blocked in the egg and can negatively affect a woman's health. In the male cell - the sperm - potentially dangerous genes for the child are turned off, which in the end can provoke gene changes when shifting to the male side. Scientists have recorded a relationship between autism and the X-chromosome syndrome. The studies were conducted extensive, but in general the field of knowledge remains an unplowed virgin soil. Parents of autistic children worry about the future of their children, talking about the role of heredity in the appearance of this disorder. In support of this hypothesis, various rumors and stories are cited. They say that the likelihood of developing autism increases with the presence of one such child in the family. There are specialists with sharply opposed opinions who claim that there are no families with several autistic people.
If hormones play
Hormones can cause developmental abnormalities. In particular, the notorious testosterone can be blamed. Perhaps it is because of him, according to statistics, that boys are more often born autistic. So an increased level of testosterone can be considered a risk factor, since together with other factors it can turn into brain dysfunction and depression of the left hemisphere. This can also explain the fact that among autistic people there are people gifted in one or another field of knowledge, because the hemispheres of the brain begin to work in a compensatory mode, that is, one hemisphere compensates for the slowdown of the other. There are risk factors during an unfavorable birth or a severe pregnancy. For example, a woman who has had an infectious disease or suffered stress during pregnancy should worry about the fate of her baby. Some doctors in such cases recommend terminating the pregnancy because of concerns about the potential inferiority of the fetus. Rapid childbirth or birth trauma can also negatively affect the condition of the child. Another possible cause should be noted heavy metal poisoning, radiation, viruses and vaccines. But official medicine categorically objects to the danger of vaccinations, although statistics inexorably testify against them.
From the field of chemistry
Finally, many scientists believe that autism can develop amid a deficiency in a particular protein, Cdk5. He is responsible for the production of synapses in the body, that is, structures that affect mental abilities. In addition, the development of autism can be affected by the concentration of serotonin in the blood. What conclusion can be drawn from this? Yes, the fact that autism involves a number of disorders in the functioning of the human brain. Some of these violations have been identified experimentally. In particular, it was possible to determine the fact that changes are observed in the amygdala, which is responsible for the emotions in the brain. Thus, human behavior is changing. Also, through experiments, it was possible to establish the fact that in childhood autists experience enhanced brain growth without any apparent reason.
Parents of young children in the initial stage try to fix the slightest signs of deviation from the norm in their children. And scientists to help them identify some signs and symptoms of autism for children at a conscious age. First of all, this is a violation of social interaction. Is the child in poor contact with peers? Is hiding from other babies or refuses to talk to them? An alarm and a reason for reflection. But this is by no means an accurate symptom, as the child may be tired, upset, or angry. In addition, the isolation of the child may indicate some other mental disorders, such as schizophrenia.
What to do?
A person with a similar disease cannot independently build relationships with other people. In especially serious cases, the child does not even trust his parents, shuns them and suspects them of bad intent. If autism affects an adult who has given birth to a child, then he may not feel any parental instincts and refuse the baby. But most often, autists are very tender and reverent towards those people who care about them. True, they express their love in a slightly different way than other children. In society, they remain lonely, voluntarily moving away from attention, avoid communication. Autistic has no interest in games and entertainment. In some cases, they suffer from selective memory impairment and therefore do not recognize people.
Work with autists is carried out with an orientation to their views and positions. From the point of view of such people, they do not leave society, but simply do not fit into it. Therefore, people around cannot understand the meaning of games, they consider boring topics that are interesting to autists. Autistic speech is often too monotonous and devoid of emotion. Phrases are often obtained "scanty," since autists give out specific information without unnecessary additions. For example, an autist will express his desire to drink water in one word, "drink." If other people are talking nearby, then the child with a deviation will repeat their sentences and words. For example, an adult says: “Look, what a plane!”, And an autistic boy unconsciously repeats: “Airplane,” without even realizing the moment he says it out loud. This feature is called echolalile. By the way, often the repetition of other people's words is considered a sign of the mind, but autists do not understand the content of their statements. In their behavior, they are sensitive people, moreover, tactile and sensory. This suggests that they categorically do not tolerate loud sounds, bright lights, noisy crowds or visual simulations. At a disco or party, autists can survive a severe shock. Painful for a person will be a game with modeling objects, the sparkle of candles on a cake, a barefoot walk. It is important to remember that autistic behavior and its next step cannot be predicted. The most ordinary things for him represent a whole ritual. For example, to take a bath you need a certain water temperature, volume, towel and soap of the same brand.
If any characteristic is violated, the autistic will not adhere to the ritual. In an active state, he can behave nervously, clap his hands, smack or pull his hair, moreover, this behavior is unfocused and unconscious.
An ordinary child will not be able to play with autists, since they do not tolerate diversity: having chosen one game, they are not distracted, they are faithful to one toy. Games can be peculiar, for example, all toys line up to one wall, and then rearrange to the opposite. Such a child does not need to be disturbed, otherwise you can achieve a non-standard and unpredictable reaction, including aggression. Autists can get carried away with items with pens. For hours they spin the shutters, open the doors. In specialized kindergartens, classes with autists involve the use of designers. Sometimes children are imbued with love for small objects and elevate them to the rank of their friends. Such
Method 1 of 5: If You Understand What Autism Is, You Can Explain It To Others
Learn the general definition of autism. Autism is a developmental disorder that usually leads to a person experiencing difficulties in communicating with others and has a violation of social skills. This is a disease of the nervous system that leads to a malfunction of the brain.
You should know that autism is a group of diseases. This means that the symptoms of the disease in different people can be very different. There are no two people suffering from this disease whose symptoms would be exactly the same. In some people, autism symptoms are very serious, while others suffer from a very mild form of the disease. Because of. Since the manifestations of autism are very diverse, it is difficult to give a precise definition of this disorder.
Always keep that in mind. when you try to explain autism to other people. It is very important to convey that one autistic way of communicating with others can be completely different from the behavior of another person with the same diagnosis. You can say that each person, regardless of whether he suffers from autism or not, has his own way of communicating with others.
You must know how autism affects a person’s ability to communicate with others. This condition can lead to the fact that for an autistic, communication with others becomes difficult. Although the difficulties experienced by people with autism in communicating with others are detailed in Method 2, here we present typical problems that are associated with this disease:
- A person can talk in an unusual tone, which is expressed in a strange rhythm or intonation.
- A person answering a question simply repeats it.
- It may be difficult for a person to explain his needs and desires.
- A person can be bewildered by a simple indication.
- A person incorrectly uses certain expressions and perceives phrases literally (he cannot understand irony or sarcasm).
Understanding how people with autism perceive others and the world around them. When you communicate with such a person, you can doubt whether he pays attention to you, and indeed, whether he cares about you. Do not take it personally and do not be offended. Autists may have difficulty understanding the feelings of others, which are described in more detail in Method 3. Keep in mind that:
- Very often, autists have absolutely no interest in others. They may simply not notice the people around them. This causes significant difficulties in interacting with others.
- Autistic people often do not share the interests of those around them.
- This can be manifested in the fact that it seems as if an autistic person does not even hear that a person is talking to him.
- Autistic children may have difficulty playing with other children; it is especially difficult for them to play collective games and games that require imagination.
It is known that people with autism adhere to certain rituals. In addition, autism often leads to the fact that people begin to perform certain actions again and again. This behavior and commitment to a regular business routine can be very different from ordinary people. The reason for this is. that autistic people may be very anxious about unexpected annoying factors. therefore, it is easier for them to strictly adhere to certain rules and daily routines. This is described in more detail in Method 4.
- Человек с аутизмом может очень строго придерживаться определенного порядка выполнения дел.
- Аутистам очень сложно приспосабливаться к изменениям (например, смене школы).
- Они могут испытывать сильную привязанность к каким-то вещам.
- Они могут иметь очень узкие интересы (часто включающие в себя запоминание чисел или символов).
- They can arrange things in a strictly defined order (for example, arrange toys in a line in a certain order).
Method 2 of 5: How to Explain Autistic Social Skills to an Adult
Try to explain that autists do not communicate with people around them in the way ordinary people do. People with autism often interact with people around them in a very special way, only in their own way. As mentioned above, autism can manifest itself in a very strong degree, and quite moderately.
- When a person whose behavior you explain has a low degree of autism, it seems to others that he is behaving strangely and ridiculously. Sometimes this is expressed in offensive comments that are not related to what is happening.
- In more serious cases, it may seem to people that a person with autism is completely unable to maintain communication that is in accordance with the normal rules accepted in society.
Do not forget to mention that it’s very difficult for autists to look into the eyes of their interlocutor. Explain that the ability to look into the interlocutor’s eyes is an important component of communication skills. It is very difficult for people with autism to maintain eye contact, because this area of social skills is not developed.
- Nevertheless, the ability to look into the eyes is a skill that can be developed specifically, especially when a person undergoes a special therapeutic course, during which he is taught how important it is to look into the eyes when talking to a person. Thus, explain that for all autistic people, regardless of the degree of the disease, it is difficult to look a person in the eye during a conversation.
Try to explain that a person with autism does not try to intentionally ignore others. Some people may think that autists intentionally ignore them or pretend they don’t hear if they are talking to them. It must be explained that this is not done intentionally. Try to help people understand that autists sometimes don’t even know that someone is trying to talk to them.
- Remember to remember that people with autism can experience significant difficulties when they need to communicate closely with people. Autists do not ignore other people, in general, it is very difficult for them to interact with others.
Make sure that the person understands the fact that people with severe autism are very rarely able to talk. Speaking of speech, some autists, in general, do not know how to talk. The stronger the disease manifests, the greater the likelihood that the person’s speech is not preserved. It is not so rare to hear how a person with autism simply repeats the phrase he heard.
- The tone of speech in autistic people is often unusual, and for others it sounds very strange. Be sure to explain to the person to whom you are talking about autism that people with autism communicate in a completely different way than ordinary people.
Help people understand. that it’s very difficult for autists to understand sarcasm and the general mood of the conversation. People with autism often have difficulty understanding any sarcasm or humor. It is very difficult for them to understand the intonations of speech, especially if the intonations do not match the facial expression of the interlocutor.
- When you explain this aspect, it will be appropriate to clarify your idea by giving an example of using icons to express emotions that are added to SMS messages. When you receive the message: “This is wonderful!”, You can assume that a person uses this expression in the literal sense. However, if a person adds the “:-P” sign to his message, then you can assume that the message is sarcastic.
Method 3 of 5: How to Explain Empathic Autism to Empathy
Help people understand that autists are not trying to specifically show everyone that they don't give a damn about other people's feelings. Explain to a person that at first glance one would think that an autistic person is insensitive and completely indifferent to other people's experiences. Remind your interlocutor that many autists lack the ability to understand other people's emotions, so they seem insensitive, although in fact they simply are not able to understand what other people feel.
- Tell people to whom you explain autism that some autistic people can improve their empathy with others by reminding them to take care of the feelings of others. For example, if you tell your autistic friend. that you are happy because of something that he has done for you, at first he may leave it unattended. If you remind him of your emotions and explain why you are happy. he may understand you much better.
Tell us about. how autistic people perceive communication with others. Very often it seems that an autistic person needs the listener more than the interlocutors. An autistic person can talk a lot about very specific things, but a real exchange of ideas and thoughts does not occur with such a conversation. This is because many people with autism have very narrow, specific interests and want to talk only about them. If the topic of conversation is beyond the scope of their narrow interest, it may seem that the person has completely lost interest in the conversation.
- For ordinary people, such behavior seems rude, but usually autistic people do not want to show disregard for the thoughts and feelings of others, they simply prefer to adhere to certain conversation topics that they understand.
Explain to people. that autists often talk about themselves, ignoring them. how much this interests others. Of course, it is quite normal to love to talk about yourself, but for autistic people this may be the only subject of conversation. They prefer to always talk only about themselves and the things that interest them.
- Help people understand that such behavior does not in any way reflect the attitude of an autistic person towards their interlocutor. People with autism have very limited interactions with the outside world, so their own thoughts and interests are exactly what they understand best and can explain more clearly.
Help people understand that autistic people also have their own feelings. It is very important that a person understands that autistic people can also feel love, happiness and pain, just like ordinary people. The fact that such people do not show their feelings does not mean at all that these feelings do not exist. This is a common myth, and you must destroy it when you talk about autism with people.
Method 4 of 5: Explaining Autistic Behaviors to an Adult
Explain. that people with autism often don't like to be touched. When you explain the characteristics of autism to a person who has not met autistic people before, you need to explain. that autistic people don't like being touched. this is especially true for strangers.
- Of course, you should always remember. that there are people who do not like to touch them - it all depends on the individual. That is why it is always better to ask permission. before hugging a person. Many autistic people love to be embraced by loved ones.
Explain to people that autists can be very uncomfortable due to certain irritants. Some autistic people will react negatively to things like loud sound or the inclusion of bright light. For this reason, it is necessary to recall that when communicating with autistic people, you always need to keep in mind the possibility of such a reaction.
- For example, sudden harsh sounds can be very unpleasant for an autistic person. The same can be said about other unexpected changes in the situation, for example, if someone turns on a bright light or there is some smell in the room. This can create severe discomfort for a person with autism.
Explain that autists can normally perceive a change of stimuli if they are ready for this in advance.. As with bodily contact, autists tolerate irritants better if they are prepared for them in advance. In general, people with autism can do better if they know in advance what to expect. Thus, try to convey to the person to whom you are talking about autism what he should ask before doing something that might bother the autistic person.
Do not forget to mention that an autistic person may behave somewhat unusual. Although many of the things described here are physical reactions that lead to a certain emotional response, autists sometimes exhibit unusual behavior, expressed in physical actions. This may seem strange to others, but many manifestations are part of the normal life of people with autism. This behavior can be expressed in the following:
- Rocking back and forth.
- Head banging.
- Repetition of words and sounds.
- Head shake.
- Snapping fingers.
- Hyper excitability.
Help people understand that a stable routine is an important part of autistic life. As we have already mentioned, autistic people feel most at ease when they can imagine a scenario. That is why a stable routine is an important part of autistic life. This applies to everyday activities. and behavior. which is described in the previous step. For example, an autistic person may bounce. when standing in a certain place. They can include the same song over and over, or repeatedly draw the same picture. The constant repetition of the same actions allows them to feel calmer.
- If you are trying to explain to your friend the behavior of your autistic child, you can compare how your children relate to the morning routine of the day before school. There is a standard daily routine in the morning, before going to school: the child has breakfast, brushes his teeth, dresses, puts things in a briefcase and so on. Although the same actions need to be done every morning, their order may change. An ordinary child may not even notice the differences. It doesn’t matter to them if they needed to get dressed today before going to breakfast, although this is different from their usual daily routine. In the case of an autistic child, such a change can be distressing. If they are used to a particular ritual in the morning, then they are preferable to follow it.
Method 5 of 5: Explaining Autism to Your Child
Make sure your child is ready for such a conversation. It is very important to be honest with the child, especially if he himself is diagnosed with some form of autistic disorder or he asks questions about his friend, who has moderate autism. In addition, it is very important to make sure that the child is old enough to understand what you are explaining to him. If the child is not yet ready for such information, your explanations will only upset him and confuse the situation even more. All children are different, so we can’t name a certain age when the time comes to talk to him about his diagnosis or about the psychological characteristics of his friend. It is up to you to decide when such a conversation takes place.
Explain to your child that autism is no reason to be discouraged. Explain to the child that this has nothing to do with his actions, and do not be sad because of this. You can tell him that no one can say for certain what the cause of autism is, and this diagnosis only means that his brain develops differently than other people.
- Help your child understand that these differences make him unique and special. You can directly tell the child that he is special, or explain it in some other words.
Inspire your child. Make sure you inspire your child by telling him that such a diagnosis does not mean that his life will be different. People with autism can successfully attend school and take part in the everyday life of their families.
Try to show your child your love. Always tell your child how much you love and care about him. It is very important for a person to be supported by loved ones, especially if he is faced with such a diagnosis. With your support, the child will be able to live a happy, eventful life.