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A mess in a teenager's room: fight or put up


Rules for those who hate “spring cleaning”.

Anna BratchikovaApril 29, 2018

Frankly, it happened to you: you return from school, only cross the threshold, and on the floor there are winter jackets, shoes that need to be cleaned and replaced with summer ones, dad, standing on the windowsill, washes the windows, mom cleans the tiles in the kitchen, and does granny take apart the cabinets? And even before you take off your jacket yourself, a terrible thought pierces your head - spring cleaning! After that, I want to dive into my room and relax more quickly, and go for a couple of hours to walk, because it’s even scary to imagine how much trash you need to take out of your room. If you are now shuddered, then relax - we have some excellent cleaning methods for you that will help clean up quickly and efficiently.

Step one: conditionally divided the cleaning into two stages

Cleaning is the stage when you take things off the shelves, wipe them, wipe the table, all the furniture, windowsill and small things, and also vacuum and wash the floor. But you need to do this all in order: first you wipe off the dust, then - objects, then vacuum up and lastly wash the floor (if your room has a mirror, wash it before you wash the floor).

Bringing beauty is the stage at which you separate the necessary items from the unnecessary and beautifully lay them out in their places. But this, too, needs to be done correctly, so that in the end you won’t create more chaos in the room, which you will disassemble until late at night. To do this, we have prepared 9 simple rules for effective cleaning.

Step Two: Clean Perfectly

Dust: to remove all objects from the shelf, wipe it and put back the objects is too dreary, so remove objects immediately from all the shelves and quickly wipe them off. Be sure to start from the top shelf, if you start from the bottom, when you wipe the top - the dust will fall off, and you will have to start all over again.

Table: with the desk, do the same as with the shelves - pull everything out of it and wipe not only from the outside, but also inside. Make sure that the rag is slightly wet and not wet, otherwise the tree will begin to deteriorate after a couple of such cleanings.

Windowsill: trust the window to be washed by adults, but you can deal with the windowsill yourself - wipe it with a slightly damp cloth and pay special attention to the corners. And do not forget about the battery, you can’t even imagine how much dust accumulates there!

A vacuum cleaner: it’s good if the responsible thing - to vacuum the apartment - is entrusted to someone from adults, but if you are obliged to do it yourself, then first remove all objects from the floor, and then start vacuuming. When all the chairs are up, the mats are folded, and the toys of your little sister or brother are in a special box, you can start vacuuming - this will be faster than lifting everything up or moving it aside.

And remember the corners - the clean corners - the clean room.

If you do not vacuum everything thoroughly, small debris will stick to your feet, and you will quickly smash it around the apartment again.

Mirrors: no wet rags! None! Forget about them at all if you don't want to wash the surface over a million times. Arm yourself with a dry flannel rag and go - this will go faster and the mirrors will shine.

Floor: Everything is the same as with a vacuum cleaner - the most important thing is the corners, and do not forget that you need to start from the far corner of the room and move towards the exit, otherwise you will get stuck in the center and wait half an hour until everything dries.

Step Three: Bring Beauty

But, before you do this, let us share with you nine life hacks on how to effectively deal with a mountain of little things, get rid of unnecessary, old and boring. Japanese writer Marie Kondo invented a method of efficient cleaning, which Konmari named after herself - and you won’t believe it - it really works, we checked it! Cleaning according to Marie’s method is also divided into two stages - first you get rid of everything unnecessary, then - you determine the place for the remaining things.

Stage One: Get Rid of Everything Unnecessary

Lifehack 1: get out by categories, not by cabinets, i.e. not a specific room or a specific cupboard, but specific things: clothes, books, important documents and materials, various trinkets and “sentimental” - things with which you have special memories.

Lifehack 2: bring the garbage bag into the room and start cleaning. Before you leave something, pick up the item and ask yourself the question - does this thing cause joy? If yes - leave, if not - in the trash. And throw away everything that you do not like, tired, it was bought by mom under pressure, etc.

Cleaning takes place in several stages:


Clothing also needs to be disassembled in several stages and properly folded. First, deal with clothes that do not correspond to the season, and then get to the rest. Get rid of stretched, washed clothes, everything that your mother forcibly bought you because she liked it, but you didn’t. To feel beautiful, Marie recommends walking at home in the same way we walk on the street, or buying several sets of home suits and dresses. And we completely agree with her! To disassemble clothes is in the following sequence:

  • Top
  • Lower parts
  • What hangs on the shoulders
  • Socks
  • Underwear
  • Bags
  • Additional items
  • Overalls
  • Footwear

Lifehack 3: save space and fold things upright. “Upright, how's that?” You ask. We explain: fold them into rectangles or twist them like scarves and put them in a cabinet vertically - storing dense things in this way is very convenient, and there are hangers for light blouses. You also need to hang things up correctly - according to colors, types (blouses, cardigans, sweaters, dresses) and seasons - from left to right, starting with warm clothes.

Marie Kondo writes that keeping books does not make sense - they come into our lives, fulfill their function, teach something and become useless. We do not agree with this - books are a very useful thing, they just need to be folded correctly, too. Try not to pile books in heaps and do not pile them up; it is better to ask dad to nail another shelf and keep the books upright, sorting them by color, subject and size.

Documents, training materials and leaflets

Throw away everything you can! We would write this in a capsule, but we have to restrain ourselves. Printouts and a mountain of leaflets are evil; it is these leaflets that create chaos in your desk. To get started, sort all your papers into three categories: “you will need”, “you will definitely need” and “just in case”. Scan and save the most important documents electronically in the cloud, keep documents like passport and snails in one folder in a specially designated place, and simply throw away school notes and countless copies issued in foreign language classes after first copying the most important points into a notebook. Old magazines and notebooks can also be thrown away, you definitely won’t need them, no matter how you convince yourself otherwise.

I bet you didn’t understand what it is, so we are telling again - these are things that you have some kind of memorable events with, but absolutely not functional: scented candles that you don’t use, a teddy bear dust collector, a friendship bracelet, that you gave a traitor friend or something like that. Try to get rid of all this if the memories pull you down and the objects are not useful. And do not leave anything “just in case” and under the pretext of “what if it comes in handy” - the case will not come and the trash will not come in handy.

Stage two: put the remaining things in their places

As we already said, it is best to store things in an upright position so that they take up less space, or in boxes. It’s not necessary to put them in boxes from under shoes with a bunch of labels to make everything look awful - you can buy special cute boxes to put everything into, buy a new small chest of drawers in the room, or ask dad to nail another beautiful shelf.

Hygiene issues

The family in which the child is a teenager is faced with the problem of redistribution of power and revision of agreements. The rights and obligations are changing - not only among the teenager, but also among all family members. Maintaining order in the room is not a matter of hygiene. In any case, this is not primarily a matter of hygiene (although you may not think so).

Are you afraid that the child will get used to living in a mess and will always be dirty? Most likely, it would be so if there was always a mess in the whole house. But then why did the idea suddenly arise to demand order in a single room? If the books in your bedroom are on the bed, the socks are on the table, and the shoes wander around the house, if the kitchen is full of boxes and jars that “someday come in handy” and the toothpaste is constantly open in the bathroom, then why is the son’s unmade bed or daughters are you so nervous?

If the house is in the usual order, then the child will have the opportunity to compare and choose between order and the mess. In the vast majority of cases, young people eventually come to the idea of ​​order.

How to respond to a mess

How to respond to a mess

Cleaning the teenager’s room is precisely his interests and does not directly concern you. You can close the door and not see the mess in his room: your things are not there, which means they cannot get lost. You can invite guests to foreign territory only with the permission of the owner, which means you will not have to blush for the mess.

It turns out that you feel annoyed not so much because of the disorder as such, but because there is a place that is now beyond your control.

Of course, if the teenager’s things are scattered outside his room, then you can insist that he remove them. He wants freedom and independence - for God's sake. But without attempt on freedom and territory of parents and other family members.

Your child is now undergoing a transition from a children's perception of the world and himself to an adult. Now it is important to distinguish between situations affecting the interests and life of a teenager and situations affecting the interests and life of parents and the family as a whole. Define spheres of influence in advance and provide for sanctions for invading foreign territory. If it was not possible to make a reservation in advance, then it is not worth making a claim ex post. Better discuss this some time later and make any necessary corrections. Relatively speaking, if a teenager scratched the kitchen table while sawing his gadgets, then he is not subject to immediate execution. But when your anger boils over, you need to discuss future sanctions. But - equally! - if you decide to rearrange the disks in his room from the table to the shelf or sort the laundry in his closet, then you too have invaded someone else's territory. At least it's worth apologizing.

Children will be able to clean toys themselves if ...

Five years ago, while sorting out the toys of a one-year-old son, I first thought about how they multiply at an incredible speed: now, instead of just one basket, we also needed a shelf. And then another box. Since my son was quite small, I myself cleaned everything in places every day. But the older he got, the less order was in the house.

Toys moved to all rooms, and it was difficult to walk around the house without tripping over cubes and cars. Among the scattered toys, my son was less and less likely to find an occupation, and it seemed that he bought any item from the strength of three days after the acquisition, and then everything in a heap. And when the daughter was born, I decided: enough! It's time to change something, it can’t go on any longer!

As a result, now my children can easily maintain order in the nursery. Without warnings and reminders, cars, books, puzzles and other "good" are put in place.

After I dealt with the problem of maintaining order in the children's territory, I realized that often such problems as “nothing to do,” “boring,” “I don't want to clean up” were not harmful at all. This is despair of the inability to cope with chaos.

So, I suggest you organize the space in the nursery so that your children can always find something to do and manage without the help of adults to cope with the consequences of their activities.

Secret number 1: reduce the number of toys

The more toys in the nursery, the more often children complain that they have "nothing to play." They simply cannot choose their occupation and often dump the contents of all the boxes on the floor.

What to do? Remove from the eyes what the child rarely plays or does not play at all! Throw out the trash and stop buying it.

Secret number 2: to divide toys into categories and sort in boxes

Children cannot play toys when they are stored in one big heap. Of course, putting them there is convenient. But why is everything again on the floor? The answer is simple: the child (or yourself!) Breaks everything to find the right thing (two identical cars, pyramid rings or cubes).

What to do? Sort toys and put them in small boxes or boxes. Agree: it is impossible to put into place that which has no place!

For example, at home we have boxes for the following categories of toys:

  • major designer
  • LEGO
  • small constructor
  • very small constructor of the eldest son,
  • cars, vehicles, balls, "boyish" toys,
  • soft toys, toys for role-playing games, dolls - in a word, "girlish" household,
  • Railway,
  • cubes
  • puzzles
  • wooden Toys,
  • robots, spare parts,
  • personal boxes.

And there are shelves for books.

Many or few? Enough! Toys in the drawers should lie freely so that the child can find what he is looking for without shaking their contents on the floor.

Recently, after another cleaning in the nursery, my daughter told me:

“Mom, thank you for finding so many toys!”

You will not believe! The children did not even notice that I removed two-thirds of the "good" from their room! They switched to what was left, because now they can find everything they need for the game.

Secret number 3: the correct placement of boxes on racks and shelves

Toys are the most sought after, toys that the child can play on his own are located below, in the zone of direct access to the child. And small toys, for the interaction with which he needs help, we place above. What we want to get less often and, preferably, on our initiative, can be removed in opaque boxes. And what we would like to remind the child more often about is transparent.

For example, you want to play some developmental games more often and interest the child in them - you can put them in a prominent place on the shelf. And you would like to keep the games with plasticine under full control - which means we remove the material for modeling in an opaque box and put it higher.

Super Cleaning Step by Step: Step One

First of all, look around the nursery. Is there furniture that the child does not use? Oversized toys that are idle? Perhaps in the corner lurked an easel, hung with clothes. A rocking horse pleases only the little ones who come to visit. Children's room is not a museum of beautiful and useful toys. Yes, perhaps in childhood you dreamed about them or these are your favorite things, but this is a child’s child, right? Let's leave here exactly what he needs.

What can be done with unnecessary things:

  • remove for a while from the nursery,
  • give to other children for a while,
  • to sell
  • give,
  • set aside for the next child.

Third step

We find a very large box (best tall), put it in the nursery and dump the contents of all the boxes there. Otherwise, where will you sort the toys? Now the place is free and you can start cleaning. Just do not try to make out everything at once! The quality of cleaning will noticeably suffer from this: in a hurry, you can forget where and what to put, or leave a lot of unnecessary things in the nursery.

Before sorting, prepare three packages:

  1. For garbage. We put everything there that you consider necessary to throw out: broken toys, candy wrappers, old spare parts, food leftovers, used coloring books, old albums.
  2. For extra toys. Here we define the toys that the child liked, but he has not played in them for a long time. And also about the same toys, one of which is enough to use (two xylophone, two balls, two sets of dishes). They can lie down in another place, relax, wait in the wings. You may find it necessary to give some of this to other children.
  3. For things from other rooms. We put everything that “ran” from other areas of your home into a bag, and after cleaning we go through the rooms with the bag and put things in place.

Preparation is over, now we take a clock or a timer, measure out 15 minutes for analysis and. go! After 15 minutes, I advise you to pause. Or maybe you decide that you will continue cleaning tomorrow.

Taking a break, first, evaluate your work and praise yourself!

Secondly, kindly tell the child what toys he has and where they lie, explain that this is their place. No matter how many times you talked about this with your child before, just do it again in a friendly manner and without notations.

Thirdly, “preserve” the place of cleaning. I recommend doing this, even if you plan to return here after 30 minutes. Cover the box or put something on top of it so that the child does not spill all its contents on the floor. Deal with packages: throw garbage out, put things from other rooms in places, remove excess toys in the pantry (closet, attic, under the bed).

The most difficult

Итак, повторяйте процедуру уборки в течение нескольких дней, пока коробка не станет пустой. Самое трудное в такой уборке — разбирать последнюю четверть. Именно там оказываются все мелкие игрушки, кусочки пазлов, мусор и не поддающийся сортировке хлам.

Calm The following technique will help you cope with it. Every time you stop in confusion, where to put this away, ask yourself the following questions:

  • What is it?
  • What is the purpose of this for the child?
  • How often does he use this?
  • When was the last time you played with this?
  • Where is it stored?
  • Is it broken, does it need repair?
  • Can a child put this in its place?
  • Is it even necessary?

Such questions will help you decide whether a particular item is in children's toys, and if so, where.