So, let's start with the basics, without which all further actions will be completely useless. If you want to truly forget her, start with your social networks. Unsubscribe from her on Instagram, delete from friends on VKontakte, block on Facebook, stop following on Twitter, finally forget about her other pages.
Otherwise, you will be obsessed with all its actions on the network. Each of her entries will seem to you a reference to your relationship, each new like from some guy will seem to you the beginning of her new relationship with someone else.
Subsequently, your paranoia will go so far that you will not be able to do the usual things and for a long time you will be stuck at the screen of your gadget in endless experiences.
Just unsubscribe from her, and that’s it.
2. Get started
“I already work, geniuses”- you will think and you will be right. However, we mean a real immersion in the workflow, a sharp shift in your priorities towards a career.
Ask to give you more responsibilities at work (suddenly you will even be promoted), try to get new career goals, achieve what you did not achieve before. In short, direct all your energy of frustration to your career. So you will think much less about her, and, perhaps, you will completely forget.
3. Take off your pink glasses
After a break with loved ones, many people have an irresistible urge to idealize and romanticize their past, believing that this was the best relationship in their life. We have no doubt that you had wonderful times together, but be honest with yourself and admit that not everything was always smooth.
Therefore, take your gadget or piece of paper (if you prefer) and make a list of things that annoyed you in your ex. Also, do not forget to enter there all the cases of your quarrels and quarrels.
Now you have a tool that will help you go down to the earth whenever you want to remember how perfect your relationship was.
Just reread it at such moments.
4. No more random encounters (with her)
If you know where she works, where she goes on weekends, with whom she talks and how she likes to spend time in the evenings, this does not mean that you need to use this information.
You should not think that if you allegedly accidentally take a walk near her place of work, she will notice you and understand how wrong she was, after which she will rush into her arms to ask for reunion.
Most likely, you will meet, exchange some on-duty remarks, create a tense atmosphere for each other, and after all this she will still think that you are desperate and will want to see you even less.
5. Stop comparing yourself to her new boyfriend
Camon, this is the worst thing you can do if she has a boyfriend after your breakup. It is curious that no matter how good you are, in such situations, men always lack the qualities that their rivals have. Even if they are not.
We strongly advise against viewing his profiles on social networks, hoping to understand what she found in him.
6. Now think how much money you no longer have to spend.
No more traveling together, going to bars and restaurants, expensive gifts and special occasions. A huge advantage of the relationship is the unexpected cost savings.
Now that you are alone, you can afford much more than before, and you do not have to spend money where you could not spend money at all.
7. Speak out
If you have held back your feelings about your break for a long time, it's time to let them out. To do this, you can invite your best friends to the bar, tell them everything you think about your failed love, shout a little how to drink (just do not overdo it), and then wake up the next day with the feeling of a reborn person.
Naturally, in order to completely move away from bitter thoughts, a person needs time. Allow yourself to get a little warm, just don’t get depressed and be able to throw out your emotions at the right time.
8. However, know when to stop
Everything in this life should be in moderation, even sorrow for your unhappy relationship. Therefore, if you think too much and tell everyone about your problem, you can seriously focus on it.
You can talk about it endlessly, but it will not change anything. At some point it turns out that you simply scroll through the negative memories in your head and share them with others. Again and again.
In this case, it is better to take positive action and, finally, let go of the past.
9. Start reading a lot
Another surefire way is to stop thinking about the girl you like. Because, as we all know, books are a real balm for the soul. Make yourself a long list of everything that you once wanted to read, and also do not forget to ask for recommendations from friends and on thematic resources.
At some point, negative thoughts simply will not have a place in your head, and it will become much easier for you.
10. Enjoy being alone
To truly feel free from relationships, allow yourself to do everything you could not when you met a girl. Now you can go anywhere, chat with anyone, and return home whenever you want. Do whatever you see fit. Nobody will tell you now that this is wrong.
Just in case: act within the law.
12. Stop biting yourself
Do not blame yourself for the fact that you still can not get rid of thoughts about the former. Do not blame yourself for violating our advice, for watching her instagram to see how she is doing. You should not blame yourself for the fact that you have already lounged several times in her favorite cafe, hoping to meet her.
Being angry with yourself in such cases is not the most productive feeling. It prevents you from forgetting the former girl and moving towards a new life, in which you will find many interesting events and people.
If at the moment it’s not so easy for you to put up with the thought of a break, remember that time is the best way to heal broken hearts. Therefore, continue to live your own life, reflect (but without fanaticism), go about your business and at some point you will realize that you cannot remember the last time you thought about your ex.